My W and I socialized with our dance teachers and fellow students at a venue last night. It was an opportunity for my W and I to socialize as a couple. Other couples were dancing but my W let me know that she was still upset about last weekend and sitting out so many dances, while I danced with others. I decided to use my time socializing and getting to know my fellow students better. I've decided that if we're going to move into being social as a couple, then it means that others are going to see imperfections. My W tries to convey her doubts about my commitment to move into the areas important to her. The teacher knows me well enough and reminds her that I have a good work ethic. It was an evening of social connection beyond dance, that my W and I rarely experience together.
My W started taking lessons to help her move into the smooth dances, to increase her repertoire. She is weary of the performance teams and wants to move more into partner dancing. I will continue to ask her to practice 1-2X per week, and shift to practicing what she needs to learn in her lessons and what we learn in the group classes.
She's having some resistance to my going to visit my parents over the Labor Day weekend. She gets to see her mother weekly. I take a twice yearly trip to visit my parents. Her sacrifice this trip is one day alone. She doesn't enjoy herself when she goes. I told her that I would return soon enough to help her with the cooking early Monday evening. I'm thinking I should hold onto my plans, and make her adapt. She will have to entertain herself for two evenings.
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CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
