I had my son this weekend. We had a great time but it went quick. I arrived at my W new place to drop off son and it was extremely hot in her house. She had a new thermostat put in and it was done incorrectly. If my son weren't staying there I probably wouldn't have fixed it. I got the A/C back on and went home.
She sent me a text thanking me for fixing it. I was in a bit of a slump lastnight when I got home. It's too quiet at the house and I miss my family/or the thought of a family. I guess it's still pretty fresh, it's only been a couple of weeks since her moving out. I'm sure it will improve.
M: 36 W: 29 S: 2.5 EA: 2/2010 OM1 D Bomb: 3/2010 PA: 6/2010 OM2 W moved out 8/2010 Loc: DE, USA
Hang tough FFH. Things WILL improve for you! Find some things to do so you aren't sitting around by yourself. That is one reason I am renting a more expensive house than I need. It is right across the street from a friend of mine. I figured that would help. I can spend some time with him and his family and he will introduce me to the neighbors.
I feel like things are looking up in my life. Not in my R with W, but in my life. You have to find the same peace.
It's been about a week since I've posted. Couple new stories to tell. My W has officially introduced my son to her new boyfriend. They have been dating for a few weeks and I guess she thought it to be appropriate for them to goto the park together. I asked her that she use her judgement when it comes to the amount of time spent together. I suppose there is nothing I can do or say so I just need to accept it.
W called me last week crying because our son was acting up and broke a glass bowl and threw her cup of coffee on the couch. She said he's out of control right now and she couldn't handle it. I tried to calm her down and let her know it's a phase he's going through, not to mention he's 2 years old.
She finally calmed down and asked if he acted like that when he's at my house. I told her he's perfect, we play and I keep him really busy. She's constantly on her phone, talking/texting so he's probably looking for attention.
I feel hurt that my W has moved on so quickly and has OM hanging out with my son from time to time. I'm hoping these feelings will pass soon enough.
M: 36 W: 29 S: 2.5 EA: 2/2010 OM1 D Bomb: 3/2010 PA: 6/2010 OM2 W moved out 8/2010 Loc: DE, USA
How long has your wife been with this OM? How much do you know about him? It seems awfully early (and inappropriate) for him to be bringing S2.5 around him so soon!
Our mediator told us that we should wait a minimum of 6 months before bringing any new significant others around the kids. My IC said at least that long.
I feel bad for you FFH. Maybe this is just a phase for her. When I asked what to expect next from W, McQueen said to expect her to get a rebound boyfriend.
Hang in there buddy and come back often. You are just slightly ahead of me and I am interested in hearing how you are doing and how things are going.
I now have all my stuff out of the house and will be staying in my new place from tonight on.
I guess it depends what you mean by "moving on". If by moving on you mean dating other people, then she has moved on. It's not my definition, however, and this comes from a life-time that has included more than its share of bad choices, rebound relationships, and so on.
To me, "moving on" means accepting responsibility for your own choices, actions, and understanding why you made questionable choices and why you made commitments you are no longer willing to commit to in your life.
Moving on, means leaving most of that baggage behind, growing emotionally and spiritually, and then moving forward.
It's too easy to get involved in a relationship with somebody else just so you don't have to be alone and deal with this stuff, and when I hear somebody making an abrupt shift, I am naturally suspicous that they are avoiding doing this tough work.
I'm not saying one needs to lock themselves up in a monestary and become a monk to find enlightenment and move forward. Time is the most precious commodity we have, and pondering your navel or constantly looking back can be a waste of time too.
But... from what you have posted here, I don't know that I would describe what your wife is doing as "moving on".
I think "rebound" is much more accurate. And if that's her choice, then so be it.
M-47,W-40,No kids D-filed 5/27/2010 Piecing - 10/21/2010 -=Soon to be banned=-
