A man in full

[TimeHeals]

Maybe it is better termed "respect a persons right to make their own choices", which I have not really seen you practicing as you post across some of these threads.

I think everybody has the right to make their own choices... including the WASs. They can make choices I would not make. They can go smoke crack, get themselves arrested and generally muck up their lives if they want. They can do what they want if they want deal with the consequences.

I disagree with you conclusion about me, however. And I know me:)

We all have the right to make our own choices, and so do the spouses who have left us. That is my conclusion.

When is "standing" really cover for trying to rescue spouses from themselves and the consequences of their choices?

When is "standing" simply a refusal to look forward?

These are fair questions.

To me, some of what I see on the MLC threads seems to be nearing sophistry in that it uses a lot of the right words and phrases, but at the core of some of it is a time perspective that is mostly looking back, and I just don't think that's the best way to live "my" life, for example.

Suggested reading: "The Time Paradox", by Phillip Zimbardo.