Well, it looks like you have done a fair share of soul searching over the past few days. I applaude your ability to self evaluate yourself that way. It also appears that you very much would like your M back, as would I, although no one outside of this forum understands why.
While I agree that so much of what is said on this board is correct, i.e, No one person is responsible for the failure of a marriage, etc., I also believe that hindsight is indeed 20/20, and that at the time, we all believed we were doing what was best for our marriage, our family, our situations in life. I know I did.
You went through a very difficult internship for your vet license. Much as a MD does. My husband went through difficult deployments across the globe. I didn't cheat. I think strength is to applauded, and I know I am the strong one in my marriage. It sounds as if you are too. Being the strong one is usually not going to win you any popularity awards in life.
All of this rambling is just to say I don't think you overtly DID anything that made your H leave. It's his weakness and he has to take responsiblity for it. Just don't be too hard on yourself.
