Forgot to mention that when DS was on the phone with H he told him that since H doesn't want to be my husband it also means he doesn't want to be DS's father. I promptly put a stop to that, told DS that his father's choice to not be my husband had nothing to do with being his father, that he still loves and wants DS.
New thread: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2112303