How To Tell The Kids

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DanF,

I know you are having a hard time, and you still have feelings for your W. Continue to DB.

I would not try to feel that you should punish her for anything, and I also would not do anything more than you have done. She made her choices. The sooner she realizes that the better. I would let her plan for what she needs to do now, and use the money she has.

I do not know if this it the right answer, but it is what feels is the best thing you should do now.

I think you should focus on your needs and have no expectations from your STBXW.

Is it easy, no. None of it is.

You are going to have feelings that you need to protect and save your W still, but that is not what she wants, so let her do for herself. Maybe she will miss you, maybe she won't, but it is something she needs to find out. It will not happen if you keep helping her. If it is for your kids then do it.

I hope this helps.

You are doing great. Don't let it get to you now.

Keep positive and in good spirits.