My wife and I were up early in bed; neither of us could sleep well. She said she's so afraid of letting me down (by not falling back in love); that she doesn't know how to rekindle the romance. She said that I've changed so much, that now I'm "alive," that I'm such a different person than two months ago.
She also said that she's afraid we'll both find a way back to our old habits/patterns. I think that without the spark of romance returning, that's the least of our worries.
Other than being a cat whisperer, and recognizing her LLs, does anyone have any tips?
Have you asked her to go to a Retrouvaille weekend? Why live in fear of what might or might not happen when you can go and learn to communicate in a way that will meet both of your needs? You'd be surprised how many sparks are ignited when spouses feel that the other person really cares about and considers their needs and desires.
