That's the only way. How long has it been since you made this decision?
I made this decision on Wednesday...3 days ago. I wrote my husband a email letting him know that I could not deal with this anymore and I was letting him go. My husband thanked me for the email, told me that he understood what I was saying, told me goodnight, and that he would try to call me the next day. I have not talked to him since. I did not call him and he did not call me.
Me (32) H (36) Together (12 years) Married (3 years) Children (4 ages 11,9,7,6) Bomb dropped (November 09) Seperated (January 29, 2010)