Every time I find myself thinking about what she is doing, I get frustrated and resentful. Disappointed and disgusted with her which leads me to "I don't deserve this and I don't want you back"
This is a normal reaction CD. We have all felt this way.
Some still feel this way and are stuck IMO.
Detaching brings clarity. It does not mean you're done.
Look at it this way.
Being with someone else right now might feel good but really it is a disservice to you and to the person you are with.
So
What I am saying is you have time.
You can be the guy who lost the game and is going to take all his toys and go home.
Or
Not to do the expected. Not become a statistic.
Decide for YOURSELF to take a different course.
Not to get your W back.
To stand up for you and what you believe.
I ask you this:
Fight or flight?
Which speaks to who you are?
Which takes more courage?
Which requires strength and honor?
You are focused right now, as we all are when when this awful thing happens to us
ON YOUR WIFE.
Let her go for now. Detach.
I cannot guarantee you that you will save your M.
I can guarantee you will understand things you never knew.
You will be a better man.
You will heal. Truly heal.
But
You must first make a choice to do it.
And that means to answer those tough questions you ask yourself up there ^^^^^.
Set your expectations only for yourself and set them above the average
Above mediocrity.
Dig deep CD for yourself.
What actions and decisions speak to the man you aspire to be.
These have nothing to do with your W and what she is doing.
This is what YOU do. Regardless of how she acts or doesn't act.
Then step without fear and do it.
My goal is to some day be the person my dog thinks I am
