They're men D4ML, and they are woefully inept at figuring out this stuff. They don't want to leave us--but they don't know how to make it better either. He had his parents before he had you, they will stick by him no matter what, and right now, he has doubts about you sticking by him. That's all.
He has had a lot of time to think he may have made a mistake. I promise you, along with missing you, he has wondered if he has made a mistake.
But there is no D4ML taking the lead down the road of forgiveness and healing.
Men don't go to friends in the way that we do, they don't like counseling, they don't have internet friends to help them.
They are pretty predictable creatures and once you have been here long enough almost ALL of the sitchs here have a "pattern" and are pretty predictable.
You have some very predictible things going on in your sitch--people who have been here long enough "see" that there is hope--that a few well-rehearsed conversations, with no anger and no bitterness and no "look", would probably turn everything around.
Your H is not a bad, evil, horrible, jerk. He is a scared guy. They act like this and worse when they are scared.
Yes, we scare them. Maybe because we can bring out the absolute worst in them.
