I have gotten alot of good advice up here and I thank you all for it. I had gotten tested for STD's on April 21. Thank God everything came out alright. I am going to set up another appointment in October to be checked again which will be 6 months. I have not talked to my husband for 3 days. He has not called me and I have not called him. He normally sees the kids on Saturdays. He did not come last Saturday though and I have not talked to him to see if he is coming today. If he comes by I will update.
Me (32) H (36) Together (12 years) Married (3 years) Children (4 ages 11,9,7,6) Bomb dropped (November 09) Seperated (January 29, 2010)
Today is day 3 of me not calling or contacting my husband. It is so hard. The kids and I were having family prayer last night and my 7 year old son asked me "Mommy do dreams really come true". I asked him "why". He said "because I keep praying for my daddy to come home but he has not come home yet". The tears just poured out of my eyes before I could stop them. I know that this is affecting my kids as well. Especially my son because his dad and him did everything together. My husband did not come by last weekend or this weekend so he hasn't seen the kids for 2 weeks. How do you go from seeing your kids everyday of there life to seeing them barely 2 days a month. I can't lie I am very sad but I know that I can make it.
Me (32) H (36) Together (12 years) Married (3 years) Children (4 ages 11,9,7,6) Bomb dropped (November 09) Seperated (January 29, 2010)
Why in the name of all that's good--would you want to have that god-awful excuse for a man? Child, you need to think more of yourself that this!
The reason that I still want my husband is because I love him. He is not the man right now that I married. He is not the man that I have known for 12 years. My husband was kind, caring, loving, affectionate, and everything that I ever wanted in a man. He cooked, cleaned, and was a great father. I don't know if he is going through a MLC or if he has just gone crazy. I stood before God and said until death do us part. I am going to try to save my marriage until I have done everything that I can do.
Me (32) H (36) Together (12 years) Married (3 years) Children (4 ages 11,9,7,6) Bomb dropped (November 09) Seperated (January 29, 2010)
Tay to do everything you can do also means letting him go. He will hit rock bottom. I know cause I was that guy. Did he have anyother problems porn, alcohol, drugs...etc?
me 36 W 33 s-6 s-4 together since 1991 married Dec 2000 9years first affair before we where married. Second affair 1/2007 Gone Nov,2007 Back June 2008. ILYBNILY---i cannot believe you did this 7/22/2010
Tay to do everything you can do also means letting him go. He will hit rock bottom. I know cause I was that guy. Did he have anyother problems porn, alcohol, drugs...etc?
I agree with you wholeheartedly didthehurt. That is why I decided that I was going to let him go. For the six months that he has been gone I have given him food, money for gas, and anything he needed. I have finally come to the fact of I have to let go. I have done everything wrong for six months. Now I am going to do things the right way by letting go. I am not sure if it was an addiction but he did always talk to women online. They were always women that lived in other states and I never really paid attention to it because they lived in other states. I know that he is going to hit rock bottom and I was trying to save him from that but I see that I can't.
Me (32) H (36) Together (12 years) Married (3 years) Children (4 ages 11,9,7,6) Bomb dropped (November 09) Seperated (January 29, 2010)
That's the only way. How long has it been since you made this decision?
I made this decision on Wednesday...3 days ago. I wrote my husband a email letting him know that I could not deal with this anymore and I was letting him go. My husband thanked me for the email, told me that he understood what I was saying, told me goodnight, and that he would try to call me the next day. I have not talked to him since. I did not call him and he did not call me.
Me (32) H (36) Together (12 years) Married (3 years) Children (4 ages 11,9,7,6) Bomb dropped (November 09) Seperated (January 29, 2010)
Good job tay. I'll send a prayer up for you. I wish you H would see the error of his ways. He will some day. I hope he is with you then, but if not it will be a hard time for him. He will see you climbed up the moutains, and know that he will have to do it without his family.
me 36 W 33 s-6 s-4 together since 1991 married Dec 2000 9years first affair before we where married. Second affair 1/2007 Gone Nov,2007 Back June 2008. ILYBNILY---i cannot believe you did this 7/22/2010
Good job tay. I'll send a prayer up for you. I wish you H would see the error of his ways. He will some day. I hope he is with you then, but if not it will be a hard time for him. He will see you climbed up the moutains, and know that he will have to do it without his family.
Thank you for your prayers and your encouragement. It means alot and it is needed in this time of pain. Thank you again.
Me (32) H (36) Together (12 years) Married (3 years) Children (4 ages 11,9,7,6) Bomb dropped (November 09) Seperated (January 29, 2010)
