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I didn't even realize that trying to make small talk is pursuing.


Told you!

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Tonight when she dropped the kid off, I gave her the letting go speech.


The "letting go speech" is pursuing too. Aren't you the one I told to just keep your mouth shut? Everytime you open your mouth....you pursue.

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!