You hit it on the nose. He emailed me 3 times while I was gone this morning, the same email "sorry I don't remember writing this last night. I must have drank too much." Everytime, within 5 minutes of each other.
It's disappointing, but at least I know it was on his mind, has been on his mind. It's not much of a peek out of the tunnel, but I thank God for small favors.
At least you know that the seed you wanted planted is there. You've accomplished what you set out to do.
You know now for sure that he's conflicted and he does think about you. Even if what he said was alcohol induced.
Life is not happy for him right now. I would stay very dark at this time.
I think that Lin was so right that maybe ow is really PO that H couldn't come across with what he promised her. Oh well maybe another seed has been planted. The one about how ow has been using him to get what she wants and it's not working out too well.
This is a long process Punkin but a sign of hope is there if that is what you want.
I agree with you Punkin. Disappointing yes, but I think it shows the door is still open in his mind as well. Probably best to just keep on as you've been doing for now. It probably freaked him out that he let his feelings out and he may retreat quite a bit while recovering from that. I wouldn't be surprised if you don't hear anything from him for awhile.
"Love me when I least deserve it, for that is when I need it the most"
M18 Me39,H42 D16 Bomb 1/10 Moved out 3/10 OW 6/10 H wants to R,OW gone 11/10 H moves back 5/11 H wants to wear rings again 9/11
No response is the best response at this time, I suppose. Agreed. Go very, very dark. As you both say, on the bright side, The seed I planted must have fell on fertile ground.
Yes, I'm disappointed, but I didn't let myself get over excited because I knew this possiblity existed.
Welllllll....when my H was drinking that was the ONLY time I had glimpses of what I NOW believe to be his true feelings breaking through...it was those times that he would say he always loved me, that he didn't deserve my forgiveness, that was deeply sorry, that he had made a huge mistake, that he didn't know what to do or how to fix things, that everything just seemed like a lost cause for him...unfortunately he too didn't remember when he sobered up the next morning...
All I can say is it sounds like he does some thinking, even if alcohol induced...you are still planted somewhere in his heart...he is reaching out...you gave a good reply, even though he denies it...he is still confused about his own feelings...I would reply to his emails and just say something like, "I understand, no problem"...this is no pressure, this is you being strong and not needing him...BUT at the same time from the previous response he KNOWS that you would be willing!
Now just go quiet...get back to work on you...try not to start focusing too much on him...he still needs some "brewing" time...he will do or say something that will give you the next needed key to know where this is going.
He evidently told the ow about the msg. SHE emailed me this afternoon claiming to have sent the msg. from his phone just to see if that is what I was wanting, and warning me off of him.
I did respond. I know my H's typing, his diction. She didn't type it. And I told her so. Also told her she didn't know what else he said to family members behind her back, did she? Resisted the urge to say cheap slut. But did say it was rich her warning me off my husband.
Followed your advice. Sent the msg. to H " No problem, no pressure." But did tell him he might have to watch what he texts as Vickie checks his phone when she gets the chance. HAHAHAHAHAH ( evil laugh )
Let me ask you a question.....does any of these emails/text change what you are going to do for Pun?
He is confused - yes. You do not have to be though.
As others have said...now is the time to go as dark as you can. Let him miss you, let him sort this chit out - you young lady worry about YOU.
God Bless, Eric
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
