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[ericmsant2]

Bobby

Man...is this chit tough! Fear...ohhh....that paralyzing fear that can overtake you. It changes the way you think..it changes everything.

You look at every interaction as a sign of change. You think something you can do will change her MLC (snap her out if you will). You think and think and think. You drive yourself crazy..the fear get a hold of you..and then you think again. Ahhh yes If I do this or I invite her here or if I stop talking to her - yes that's it...that's it I will try that. Then you think you get it. She may say "hi" and begin to think that something is going to change - then the next day she is back to being distant and then you come crumbling down. You get depressed. You feel hopless. You feel defeated. Your down...the world sucks...

Bobby - I have been living with a women that is in MLC for 11 months. It has been the hardest thing I have ever had to deal with!

Bobby - I did what you are doing. I held on....and then held on a little more. I allowed her to control my emotions to control how my day went. I allowed her to define who I was. I allowed her to control the sitch. I allowed her to fuc* with my head. I allowed...I allowed...I allowed...I lived in fear. I lived in shame. I felt defeated. I felt my world was over. I felt lost. I felt all of these emotions. I used DB as a tactic...I used it incorrectly. I used it to manipulate. I used it to try and control the sitch so that it went the way I wanted to. No of it worked. Oh...I know I can go to other sites, I can try and download more M saving books, articles, anything just anything to fix this. Then.....one day.....I stood up Bobby. I woke up one morning and said.....


Fu*k this! eric...let go...let completely go. Give up trying to save the M. Eric save yourself...

Bobby, I cannot say this enough....if you want a chance as small as it may be to save your M - let her go! Stop talking to her. Stop trying to think your way out of this. Just stop Bobby.

Bobby look inside yourself. Look deep. See where you went wrong in the M and fix it. You can't do that when all you do is look at her. Look at the sitch...YOU HAVE TO LET GO BOBBY.

Please read AJM post to you. Read them again and again..let them sink in. I tend to be a little more raw than most on these boards Bobby...so here comes my real raw advice.

Grow a set of balls, put on your f*cking pants and let her go. Go and become the man you always wanted to be. Go and live your f*cking life. Look deep and find you, fall in love with yourself.

I am not saying to file for a D. Nor am I saying be an as*hole - no I am saying let go. Make choices for you..what you want...stop thinking "what is she going to think", "how will she react"...Bobby be the real YOU. She will either love you and stay or she would not!

When you finally let go...you will realize that you decide what YOU want for YOU life - no one else does.

God Bless,
Eric