i read somewhere on here a quote that went something like this marriage is trust, honesty....forgiviness...anyone know that quote? i'd like to put in on my favorite quote list...
me 36 W 33 s-6 s-4 together since 1991 married Dec 2000 9years first affair before we where married. Second affair 1/2007 Gone Nov,2007 Back June 2008. ILYBNILY---i cannot believe you did this 7/22/2010
well i plan to head back to house today...dont know if i should call and tell her or not. i had mentioned to her a few days ago. She said she was going to see her dad since he is leaving for a job in WY. i have thought about what i'm gonna say something along the lines of what most have said, that i'm here in the family. Until the court tells me to leave. The house is as much mine as hers. OR should i even say anything at all. i havent seen my boys since monday. The last thing i did on tuesday morning was give them a kiss and tell that i love them as they where sleeping. had to be one of the hardest things that i have ever done...i feel like life would be easier on them if i was just gone....i dont want to put my boys through a divorce...etc depressed today...
me 36 W 33 s-6 s-4 together since 1991 married Dec 2000 9years first affair before we where married. Second affair 1/2007 Gone Nov,2007 Back June 2008. ILYBNILY---i cannot believe you did this 7/22/2010
Calling all cheaters, liars, adulterss whatever we are called. After the A had ending and you found yourself trying to put things back together, did you ever feel the to just end everything?? As I drive back home 3hrs I'm trying to hold on to hope, but it is slipping from me. Everytime I go under a overpass I have a sudden urge to drive into the concrete pilliar and end it all. How did you get over it? I have the wieght of the world on my shoulders....my M is crumbling,my legal status is crumbling, which means my job, is going to be crumbling, which means my sons life will be crumbling.....I can see hope in almost everyone else's sitch here except mine...
me 36 W 33 s-6 s-4 together since 1991 married Dec 2000 9years first affair before we where married. Second affair 1/2007 Gone Nov,2007 Back June 2008. ILYBNILY---i cannot believe you did this 7/22/2010
I don't have the answers to your questions but I can tell you don't give up. Everything that is going on will be alright. I look to Jesus to give me help in the midst of my storm. Whatever higher power you believe in pray and hold on just a little while longer.
Me (32) H (36) Together (12 years) Married (3 years) Children (4 ages 11,9,7,6) Bomb dropped (November 09) Seperated (January 29, 2010)
Tay, I strayed from that flock. And took the wrong path after living the good way for years. I felt that I had deserved to what I wanted since I had beeen good for so long, and did all the right things. Now look where that got me. None of my loved ones deserved any of this..
me 36 W 33 s-6 s-4 together since 1991 married Dec 2000 9years first affair before we where married. Second affair 1/2007 Gone Nov,2007 Back June 2008. ILYBNILY---i cannot believe you did this 7/22/2010
Think of your sons. Even if you and your W don't mend things and EVEN if your current job falls through, your sons have a full life ahead of them that you will be a part of. There will be other jobs and other relationships if the one with W does not work out. Right now things look bleak, but they will not always be this way. Your sons will be there for you. They need you and love you.
You ARE strong enough to make it through this, and you have alot of love in your heart left to give family and other loved ones.
In the short-term you have GOT to start doing positive things for yourself. You have GOT to start doing some kind of aerobic exercise at least 3-4x/week and some hobby or social activity (even phone calls) with friends at least a 2x/week.
Me-53 W-49 D22,D18,D15 T-Since-12/2001 Married-9/2004 She Moved Out-5/28/2010 Piecing start-04/2011 Now-together Thread http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2079304
Well I made it home. Sadly W had took kids to her sister/mothers house. I called to tell the boys goodnight. Quick conversation I'll see them sometime tomorrow.
me 36 W 33 s-6 s-4 together since 1991 married Dec 2000 9years first affair before we where married. Second affair 1/2007 Gone Nov,2007 Back June 2008. ILYBNILY---i cannot believe you did this 7/22/2010
You have right to see your boys. Set up a clear plan with your W for when YOU want to see them. She shouldnt be able to keep them from seeing you the night you return just cause she doesn't feel like seeing you.
Me-53 W-49 D22,D18,D15 T-Since-12/2001 Married-9/2004 She Moved Out-5/28/2010 Piecing start-04/2011 Now-together Thread http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2079304
I am in the same sitch except I do not have kids with my W. I had an EA two years ago that my W bottled up inside of her until it blew July 4th. My W will not even communicate with me. As I said in my post I wish thast there was OM though it would have hurt the same I would not be kicking myself. As much as it hurts you have way too much to live for with your two sons. This pain that we are feeling is temporary (if we excercise it out of our system). As Bustorama mentioned schedule planned visitation with your sons and focus on becoming a better you through excercise and counseling and perhaps your wife will begin to see a different you and soften up a bit. I as well as others are pulling for you.
well the W is gonna give me the kids this evening she already said if i could take them to school in morning. Which means that she will not be here at the house tonight. At what point should i tell her that i'm not leaving? should i just do it over the phone. I feel that if i say this that its just gonna push her over the edge to go and file... She said she wanted to seperate for a few months to see if she "missed" me not being here. But i see that as just starting the process. Kimmie, please not to hard witht the 2x4's. Is this her boundery she has put up????
me 36 W 33 s-6 s-4 together since 1991 married Dec 2000 9years first affair before we where married. Second affair 1/2007 Gone Nov,2007 Back June 2008. ILYBNILY---i cannot believe you did this 7/22/2010
