I've decided on the latter with the attitude of moving forward with my life. I think I'm in a good place/mindframe. How do I convey this to her?

~Mark

Me: 38
W: 34
Together: 9yrs
1st M: may '03
1st D: april '08
1st bomb: june '08
remarried: oct '08
2nd bomb: aug '09 --(W asked for D one week into 3 mo. trial separation which was meant to save our M)