Wife left me close to 8 months ago because she was unhappy. Felt that she had "lost herself" and we were not close anymore. She was right.
I wanted to work on the marriage, she was done.
I tried for about 5 months until it because clear that she had more interest in being with other guys than me.
I gave up, and moved on. Got a girlfriend who I liked very much and had no contact at all with wife for over 2 months.
Then, out of the blue one day, I just had this urge to see how she was. I think not only that, but I wanted to open the lines of communication on the divorce. To say my girlfriend was putting pressure on me to divorce would be an understatement, but at that point, I was POSITIVE it was over, and figured wife and I needed to talk and at least get all this settled.
So, we talked.
What I was originaly planning to be a quick "Hey, hope you are doing well, we should get this divorce thing going" turned into a 4 hour conversation.
We talked for 4 hours straight, about EVERYTHING... HONESTLY... There was no anger, it was the kind of discussion we should have been having years ago, but never could, for whatever reason.
We both admitted we are still in love with each other, and miss each other very much.
I came clean to her that I had met someone, and she was upset, but she understood. She told me that if I wanted to be with her, then she would start the divorce and leave me be to live my new life.
I took almost 3 weeks thinking about what to do.
Even though I knew from the point her and I started talking again that I was willing to give us a shot.
A few days ago I broke things off with my girlfriend, and I feel terrible for hurting her, but I was always honest with her, and I hope someday she will at least respect that.
I went out with my wife last night.
It was the first time we have seen each other in a while.
It was great. It was like a really awesome first date. We had about 15min worth of serious talk, where I told her I broke things off with my ladyfriend.
We went back to just talking and laughing and asking about each others families and how everyone was doing and showing each other pictures on our phones from the last 7 months and stuff like that.
We then went back to her apartment, and had awkward first date type sex on her couch.
Afterwards, she cried, and said tonight is the happiest she's been in months.
I told her "I think we should start this... You and me, and see what happens"
And she said "I think we already started"
And then I went home.
My head is REEEEEELING.
I would like to maybe start small with a book for us to read. We did bring up marriage counselling and that is a definite possibility, but I don't think were there yet.
Does anyone have any suggestions for a good book her and I can both read on the subject of getting back together?
