Thanks for the Gummi Bear link. It's a great song to hear in the background of my mind.
At some point, it's no longer about the divorcing spouse.. it's about you. Where your energy goes. What brings you joy, growth, fulfillment. It's a beautiful world when life stops being about the emotional trauma and upset the divorcing and/or divorced spouse brings.
As far as the "It" goes.. I'm not looking for validation from the former spouse, not that it would happen. And on the off chance it did.. well.. it wouldn't matter. I've changed too much to want what was so flawed and never jointly resolved.
Good to hear the divorce is getting closer to being finalized. And great sign that you know what you need... and/or can substitute for.
