A man in full

[TimeHeals]

Hey Grit,

I see that you have stood for your M for a very long time. One question though: what do you really want now? What do you deserve?

Let me throw out a hypothetical here: what if your wife is just one of those women who cannot stand to be alone?

I don't see her taking ownership for her choices in your posts. For example, the DUI and such... "I just can’t believe the bad choices I made I don’t even know that person".

That person is her. She is the only one that really, really knows that person. This alienation, this detached view of herself is a mechanism not to accept responsibility.

It differs from your statement, "I say you know what speaking just for me I am not proud of the man I was" in that by pointing out that you are not proud, you are at least accepting responsibility;however, you are keen to point out you have changed. You don't need to say this. We all change, and we have all done things we are not proud of doing.

You see what I am seeing here?

Her not accepting responsibilty. You accepting responsibility but keen to point out your changes.

Anyway, that's just my $.02.