I haven't met with this lawyer yet, but I've heard he's the one to go with. Tuff as nails and will fight to get me what I deserve.
What do I need to do to protect DD and myself?
He can have his crappy phone back for sure. I know everything I need to need to know.
Hi Courts,
I'm so sorry to hear about this, but I can't say as I'm very surprised. You have your own answer here, above. Meet with the attorney first, and then the atty will tell you what you need to do to protect yourself.
Is yours a "fault" or a "no-fault" state for divorce? I'm assuming it's no-fault, and if so, then you really don't need any additional evidence of his affair, and it would only hurt you more to SEE more of it. Just go home, calmly give him his phone back, look him in the eye, shake your head in disgust, and say "Unbelievable."
And then walk out of the room.
Do NOT engage with him. Do not answer him when he tries to pry out of you what you're going to do, unless you want to say "I haven't figured it all out yet," which is fine. But only give him the same answer, over and over again, if he keeps asking you: "I don't know; I haven't figured it all out yet."
Do NOT sulk.
Do NOT go off on him.
Your demeanor towards him should be a combination of BUSINESSLIKE and DISGUST (hence, the "Unbelievable" line).
I'm so sorry. At least you know; time to protect yourself and even moreso -- your daughter.
