I had some great people shining flashlights and holding lamps for me. Paying forward, my friend.
I also have Way and NUTS in my drawer. However, though good, I feel that they will need to be re-read AFTER I DO NMMNG exercises.
If I can get rid of THAT mindset, it should free up some space for the new learning in Way and NUTS.
Originally Posted By: FaithnAK
it's that tendency to look back or hesitate right now. I see the squirrel and I feel like I can grab it, but I know I shouldn't and its frustrating.
Originally Posted By: FaithnAK
...when the squirrel finally comes to my hand, what the hell do I do then? You know?...what if it happens all of a sudden?
Hey, Faith. You bled these two together and it's TWO separate issues. And you are ignoring the TIME thing.
The first is actually impatience. It's the "fixer" coming out to play. This is a BIG problem; it took a LONG time to happen; it's going to take at least the same amount of time to UNHAPPEN. Also consider that only YOU know the steps required to repair/rebuild a M. She doesn't. Allow extra time for that, too.
Also keep in mind nobody knows how many times "the squirrel" is going to come out and test the situation. How long between tests? All depends on how jittery the squirrel is and HOW CALMING AND PATIENT THE HUMAN IS!!That's all you can control.
So, that answer pretty well eliminatesthe fear in your second point. Let me tell you this. I can quite honestly tell you that she will not ask for reconciliation and "Please let me come home" in August. Highly doubt Septemeber either.
"All of a sudden" doesn't enter into it.
TIME means you can afford to be PATIENT.
Take the squirrel anaolgy seriously.
REALLY! How long- in days and weeks- would you have to sit there all stooped over in a park for a squirrel to eat out of your hand? THAT is what we are talking about.
Now add the complexity of your W's human and quite confused mind?
Now triple it. Close.
Do you have to be perfect? No. But as perfect as you can be. Which means make good use of the time. The more time that goes by (TIME is now your friend!!), the more stable and confident you will be as she gets closer and closer.
BUT YOU STILL CAN'T MOVE.She has to SIT in your hand!!!
And, don't forget, in the first R talk SHE INITIATES that includes "I'm thinking I've made a mistake, etc" YOU KINDLY REFUSE THE OFFER.
The RobX "Soft Rejection".
I'll dig for it. Just can't find it now.
i hope that givesyou an indication of the time factor.
There is no need to feel panic or pressure.
TIME is now on YOUR TEAM!! What would happen if you sneexed on the squirrels 27th attempt? Right. You'd be almost starting over from scratch.
