from the beginning to now

[norstar]

I am trying to validate her feelings. She said I didn't help out around the house. So no matter how tired I am I clean up around the house. She said I didn't spend time with the kids, so I take them to the park or take them shopping with me or just play leggos together. She said she feels pressured to have sex. so I just don't bring it up or touch her in a sujestive manner. She said she see's the changes, but nothing changed between us. For years I would have to be the one to bring up issues we need to work on or even start conversations. That goes the same for sex. I am tired of having to be the front runner of change, communication, sex or even going out to the store. I have told her how I feel but she seems to blow me off, but turns and says I blow her off even after all the changes I have made to show her I hear and understand what she is saying.

If I am suppose to view the EA as a war what are the rules of engagement?