Thank you, John. I get criticized a lot around here for being too "soft" on cheaters. I don't believe marriage is a contest that can be won by either spouse. In fact, I think that was one of the things wrong with my marriage for so many years, we were each trying to get the best of the other person. Maybe it came from growing up with siblings. We always fought, so I thought that was how you acted in a family. I literally had to be taught by the folks at Retrouvaille how to be nice and accommodating to my husband. It really did make a difference when I stopped complaining about things I didn't like and started noticing the things I did like.
I want to reassure you that Retrouvaille is not heavy-handed on the religious part. It is all about marriage, and it is open to people of all faiths. They are on a mission to help people save their marriages. They are not there to convert you or drill religious doctrine into you. My husband I were quite comfortable there, and I'm Jewish and he is, well, not too interested in anything religious.
