Well, if NMMNG dialed you in, then you have a great head start.
Keep working on THOSE things and the confidence and self-respect will really climb.
I'm not sure if there is a thread on Catnip, but (though I haven't tried it and will) Search for that word and see what it brings up.
You keep working on being the right guy for your "next marriage" (regardless of who it will be with) and you are on fire....in a good way!
AWARENESS is half the battle. If you are aware of your tendencies and bad habits, it helps with boundaries; "true to you" actions; and detachment as well as Letting Go!
From where I see you in the forest, you are in great shape.
Remember, you are way ahead of her in the journey, (and if THIS is going to turn out with her coming back), she'll have to catch up. And you will need to lead by example.
Thanks CD, sincerely!
"Ways of a Superior Man" and "N.U.T.s" have been HUGE factors too.
The awareness has given me a calming effect, believe it or not. I keep reading the books, I'm reading NMMNG again right now, but I'm actually going slow and following the "Breaking Free Activities". Don't really have any "Safe" men except a IC that I'm seeing. He's agreed to read the book (lol - I thought that was pretty cool), so he can assist me.
I know I'm on the right path, but it's that tendency to look back or hesitate right now. I see the squirrel and I feel like I can grab it, but I know I shouldn't and its frustrating. It's kind of like, when the squirrel finally comes to my hand, what the hell do I do then? You know? After the posts tonight, I'm safe for awhile, but what if it happens all of a sudden? I know I have some boundaries, but can I NOT screw it up?
Anyway, thank you for your help tonight. I appreciate your feedback. Thanks for throwing me a lamp in this darkened forest.
