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[john28]

It seems all this stuff looks so much better on other people -- marriage, children, jobs, divorce. The reality is not as good as it looks. You can't make her choices for her. But you can be the best choice. A lot of people will say that doesn't work, being the best option. I've seen it work right here on this board.

It takes patience, and commitment, and maturity. It's what my husband did for me, and what I did for him when the shoe was on the other foot. There is an adage, if you love someone, set him/her free. If she loves you, she will come back to you.

There aren't any quick fixes to the situations we find ourselves in, and no guarantees. But you know what you offer -- a home and love and family for your son, something no one else can offer.

Growing up looks so good, but once we enter the adult world, we realize that we had it much better when we were teens and had no responsibility. There is no going back, but there is finding the good in the life that you have. I think both you and your wife can do that. And in just three weeks Retrouvaille will help you.

Have you found a sitter for the weekend?

Lotus, I have to say that this is the most heartfelt advice I've received on this board. I've received lots of recommendations and paths I should take, but this is sincerely the most heartfelt that I've had.

Thank You, this means a lot to me. I love my W, and I want her, but I can't make this decision for her. I can't control the situation anymore. It is not withing my control.

I can only make ME the best choice to make. I am a good person. I am a good man. I believe that. She believes that - and has even said it as recent as 3 days ago. I just have to let her see that again by setting her free to make that same realization all over again. She didn't "pick me" because I was a bad person or because she was just content with me. She picked me because she loved me, and she still loves me regardless of what she says.

Thank You, Lotus.