I haven't posted in awhile so thought perhaps I should. Just back from dinner at the in-laws. I got to see my H family...and 'our' neice and nephew. I love that my nephew still calls me 'Aunt Lola'. It is the cutest thing.

It gets easier being around my in-laws without my H but I still feel sad. We spent so many days, nights, holidays, birthdays at his sisters house. The drive there..pulling in the driveway...eating dinner at the table...sitting on the couch- all things I was doing with my H not so long ago. I didn't cry on the way home...even when I got lost (H always would drive- and I have no sense of direction) lol.

The in laws asked me if I heard anything about the divorce papers..I was hoping they did. I haven't heard a thing.

Earlier in the week, I noticed that the digital voice recorder that I used to tap my H to confirm his affair was missing from my house. I asked my H if he took it...and he said yes. I asked if he could return it..and he responded.."of course...why? are you starting up your own Private Investigation firm?" I just dislike his "smugness". I guess his way of making light of an awful time in my life??!!!
I responded "No need for further PI work...I got rid of the cheating liar..I need it for work"..

The more I think about it...the angrier I get. That digital recorder was mine. No question...it was mine...and he took it. Without asking. Without saying anything. I really cannot have him in my house again. H then emailed me a couple of days later asking me if I had an extra laptop bag that he could have.

I spoke to my IC about this last night....my H's reluctance to grab ALL of his [censored] from the house..and the taking of something that doesn't belong to him..and then asking for things in the house that are mine. IC thinks I need to put the 'gabosh' on this..and quickly. So here is an opportunity for me to establish a boundary. My house is no longer 'OUR' house..it is 'MY' house. He has no right taking things that don't belong to him. He has no right asking me for things that aren't his. He has no right grabbing two things everytime he comes over...we have been at this for months now. NO MORE.

Next time he asks to come over to grab stuff...I am going to let him know that all of his stuff is in the garage. He is no longer welcome in my home but he is welcome to come look thru the garbage bags in the garage. Whatever he doesn't take is going in the garbage. DONE.