Baby born, separated, WH moving overseas for OW

[newmama]

Piano, I didn't get the sense that your WH has permanently MOVED ON. You KNOW their "relationship" is not going to last! But he has moved on for unknown amount of time....

I can totally see what you mean here and I have to agree:

But a bigger part of me thinks he just wants me to accept this as the status quo and actually that he's happy as a pig in sh*t:

+ Is now a Father, with capitol 'F'; and a much better one than his own. Paying me child support eventually will be a pleasure because it will asuage his guilt and increase his feelings of ownership/investment
+ Has the woman of his dreams
+ Is now living again in the city with his best childhood friends and one or two adored family members
+ Is back living in the country/city of his origins and his dream city
+ Is on the cusp of getting a job in the industry of his dreams in the city of his dreams
+ Has no responsibilities. Free! Young again! New love!

Status quo...reflects CURRENT not future.

ESCAPE is the name of the game here. Shirking his responsibilities, being cowardly, running away. All the cheaters do it! grrrrr!

You won't be able to detach if your WH keeps emailing you like that...I like G's idea of having someone else be the "messenger" about news on your D. I tell you, Piano, that if stbxh moved halfway across the world, I would not have done ANY Dbing and would not have acted at all like the way I did. Just saying because I don't want you to worry that you shouldn't be acting angry or pushing him out or something...it is FAIR and expected that you don't want anything to do with him.