i've been specifically angry that wh has left me to do all the work. i'm working full time (soon), caring for the baby, trying to keep a clean house AND keep myself fit. Or get myself fit. So I am realizing that I will need to see him more than I want to.
I think it's great to realise this sooner than later. Being a parent is a huge job, being a single mum is especially taxing. WH has removed himself from your immediate circle of support - either he steps in with hours/time, or he pays up so you can pay people to help you. That's reality, that's how it works. My feeling is that if you get WH to do his share, he might start to question the intelligence of what he's done. The alternative is that you reduce his influence in your life and engage others' to step in (like your sister).
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The friend that I hung out with tonight is (sort of) an OW!
If I read the sitch right, she is an OW and I reckon you should throw her a line or two of how painful and damaging infedelity can be. Sounds like your friend should want better/more for herself than a bloke who plays off multiple women at once!
Sounds like your friend should want better/more for herself than a bloke who plays off multiple women at once!