1) Home makeover (check) 2) Getting your finances in order and firewalled (work in progress) 3) GALing (slowly getting there) 4) Introspection and evaluation (check)
Pretty darn good report card, CD!
Some suggestions for consideration:
1) You might want to consider getting into an activity that W has always wanted to do with you as a couple, but never got around because "life" got in the way. Say, W has always wanted to learn French with you. This is a good time to take French class. This would be a good way for you and W to reconnect down the road when she is trying to end the A. 2) Perhaps do a small test with cologne...a small dab. Scents are a powerful draw....it stirs up the pheromones and brings up deep unconscious reactions and associations in people. Please, please no slathering! 3) What activities, hobbies, or items can be done that will bring up "positive memories" for your W? This is something that only you would know about your W. For example, a card (not now)...that is not R-related...that can only be understood between you. An inside knowledge or joke. Example: if someone is a big fan of the Raisins, then can buy items or pictures associated with them for the WAS. The goal is to induce positive memories associated with you and the M...which will draw back W to you since most of the focus is on the "bad" stuff of the M. This needs to be used only sparingly...perhaps one or two times. This is a challenging tightrope for some DBers to walk on. CD, I would not recommend this tactic at this stage since W is probably feeling some internal conflict right now.
