...as I do things for me I feel my self-respect coming back.
...I've accepted, as it is right now, that I'm getting D'd and it would take an act of God to stop it right now
I feel I need to know what these "texts" mean...
First three are what's working, Faith Bottom one is wasted energy you should be using on the top three. The words in the texts mean nothing. The ACT of texting means the squirrel smells the food and is looking.
Wait and see if her texts become calls....or if the text statements become questions**. These are tests not texts. Don't fail.
That's all I am doing. The texts are becoming calls. Still being elusive. Mysterious.
Just letting you know what YOUR forest looks like from the outside!! I know it's dark in there. Trust your new found self-respect and your knowledge of what is working. Don't add anything to the soup. Needs to simmer more. (Holy Analogies, Batman!)
** Note the texts. As WE know, most statements ARE questions. Think about the questions. But don't answer them. Just write them down.
Well put! And Well Received.
After reading what I wrote, what in your opinion would be fail? In other words...I agree with turning these texts into calls, but "How" would I fail in obtaining this. I do get the message here to NOT initiate conversation (TY! Sincerely)....but more importantly what would make me fail?
Changing anything (moving toward the squirrel) is a fail.
The beauty is you don't have to do anything. We're are watching a parade. You know the WAW playbook, right?
It's predictable.
If the texts (tests) turn to calls, we have a squirrel having a look to see if "the human" can be trusted.
DON'T MOVE.
Do what you are doing. Use that self-respect to hold your line.
You are on your path to the new Faith, right.
Don't stop and wait for her. The 'Act of God" will mean she's gonna have to run to catch up.
If you stop and wait, or worse, head back to her, FAIL!
You're doing fine. Trust what you already know is working.
When stuck, don't change anything until you've shot it at the board.
As Missherlove keeps hammering at me, TIME.
If you get confronted and/or ambushed, canned response is " I understand how you would feel/Sorry you feel that way. I'll need to think about that some more. I'll get back to you"
Changing anything (moving toward the squirrel) is a fail.
The beauty is you don't have to do anything. We're are watching a parade. You know the WAW playbook, right?
It's predictable.
If the texts (tests) turn to calls, we have a squirrel having a look to see if "the human" can be trusted.
DON'T MOVE.
Do what you are doing. Use that self-respect to hold your line.
You are on your path to the new Faith, right.
Don't stop and wait for her. The 'Act of God" will mean she's gonna have to run to catch up.
If you stop and wait, or worse, head back to her, FAIL!
You're doing fine. Trust what you already know is working.
When stuck, don't change anything until you've shot it at the board.
As Missherlove keeps hammering at me, TIME.
If you get confronted and/or ambushed, canned response is " I understand how you would feel/Sorry you feel that way. I'll need to think about that some more. I'll get back to you"
I've heard of a "script", what I've read from MWD, and the advice from here.
I have not figured out the prediction part. You know like what to to do next...Right now, just by the posts received tonight I know I did the right thing by asking here and I know to not initiate anything further ...yet.
I just went back and read my threads...I've been guilty of moving around so I think I'll just stick with my original.
I really didn't realize how many "All-Stars" stepped in and gave me input. It's so much of an eye opener that I don't think besides my faith in God, that I would be here where I am at now without you all. THANK YOU!
Please keep me on the right track and I welcome all advice and reasoning even if it hurts. Keep it coming.
It's not about what you are to do next. It's more about what they are likely to do next.
Since we can now see she is looking to reconnect and/or see if you are stiill available/accessible to her, (and this was caused by what you were doing) you continue to do that to show her you aren't. That increases the interest.
If you are curious, look for Coach's posts on catnip.
If you need to fill time (and you have TIME), have you read the "What Women Find Attractive" thread?
It's not about what you are to do next. It's more about what they are likely to do next.
Since we can now see she is looking to reconnect and/or see if you are stiill available/accessible to her, (and this was caused by what you were doing) you continue to do that to show her you aren't. That increases the interest.
If you are curious, look for Coach's posts on catnip.
If you need to fill time (and you have TIME), [b]have you read the "What Women Find Attractive" thread?
That's good for you regardless.
Oh yeah, I have time. I've read that "attractive" thread daily and it's not for her to find me attractive, but I'm trying to get to the point where I KNOW I'm attractive. That confidence thing is the truth. I had to go back and reflect on what attracted her to me in the first place. I was very confident, but that has been short lived because of, well, "No More Mr. Nice guy" pretty much dialed it. At some point I lost my confidence and that "Little boy" came out. Now that I'm aware it has increased my awareness.
I'll look for the catnip post later on tonight...not sure I've read it. I've viewed many of Coach's threads and have seen that word, so I'll dig for it. Thank you for the insight.
Well, if NMMNG dialed you in, then you have a great head start.
Keep working on THOSE things and the confidence and self-respect will really climb.
I'm not sure if there is a thread on Catnip, but (though I haven't tried it and will) Search for that word and see what it brings up.
You keep working on being the right guy for your "next marriage" (regardless of who it will be with) and you are on fire....in a good way!
AWARENESS is half the battle. If you are aware of your tendencies and bad habits, it helps with boundaries; "true to you" actions; and detachment as well as Letting Go!
From where I see you in the forest, you are in great shape.
Remember, you are way ahead of her in the journey, (and if THIS is going to turn out with her coming back), she'll have to catch up. And you will need to lead by example.
