When a good talk just fizzles...

[KellBell0820]

That wasn't good enough for him and he escalated a bit so I said 'I'm not going to allow you to yell at me' and walked away. This patter continued for a couple of days.

"why do you think you need to yell at me for me to hear you? If you are frustrated about something then tell me?"

If he talks don't get defensive, he doesn't feel like you hear him. The yelling is his way of trying to control things.

Thanks. I have this problem sometimes too. Things will escalate and end with H yelling. I usually don't know what to do when he starts yelling except to just walk away (or well, end the conversation since we don't actually see each other).