Donna, I will check on her, not sure I can be of any help but will try...
Hi girls, yes the weekend is over and went Ok and I am back at work since yesterday, it sucks! Budget season but thank God I am not in my old position where that would be my main responsibility. At my new position I am GIVING feedback instead of expecting it...
I think during vacation we went "up a level". We got closer, we talked about things that he has previously said he wasnt interested in. I shared with him some of me deepest thoughts and feelings and tried to make him see the complete picture. I think he actually understands better now. I would be crying and he would come to me instead of run and hide. Dont think we spent the vacation talking about hurtfull things, just a couple of times because I had relapses (?) and thoughts that bothered me.
I think I managed to speak without worrying about his reactions, without trying to make me lovable, without being anxious. Just plain raw hurt and disbelief that has been torturing me, sometimes without even connecting it to him and his actions.
We had fun, we were reminded why we fell for each other several times because we have the same response-reactions-oppinion about things and people. At one point again, he said he doesnt even know how the hell he made the choices he made.
Yesterday he said he misses being together with me and the kisses and wants to discuss for ways to have some more time together this winter.
In a couple of weeks we have the 3 days away on Santorini. I hope we make it because my dad is getting worse and worse and my mom cant take care of the kids. My babysitter said she will help out, I am counting on her.
Sounds like it was great! Exactly what you needed, a time away to just re-establish some good foundation. It all sounds so good and I am really happy for you!
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