cheated on, lied to, and now I am moving on

[Lucky11too]

I think you need to look to what you want to see happen in the future b/c this will just be the first of many potential run-ins. Since this is the first post D filing event, it will set the precedence. Do you ever see yourself wanting to have any joint celebrations/holidays with H’s family in the future? (besides the obvious of S’s graduations and wedding {obviously way in the future} that can’t be avoided). Also, would you ever want to be included in any of their celebrations with S? I think it also depends what kind of party it is. If it’s at your house that’s a little more of your personal space, so I could see you definitely not wanting them there. However, if it’s at a park for example, it’s a little less formal and more open, and you wouldn’t have to feel so obligated to “host” them. Just some things to think about. It’s hard b/c it’s all new. I’m not sure what I would do in your sitch. For me, it would definitely be more about H’s family not H, since I am close to them. If H wants to be D’d, then that’s his choice, but it’s unfortunate you really just can’t invite H’s family and not H.