Even in regards to parenting decisions? How do I do that without offending her? Her 'crisis child' seems to be this young teenager personality, I don't know, maybe around 13-14 years old. It's something I tuned into early in this crisis because this 'child', seems like just about every time she comes out to play, often makes repeated statements along the lines of, "You can't tell me what to do! I am a strong, independent woman!"
It's pretty strange to hear/watch her say this, because alot of her mannerisms, tone of voice, body language, etc... just scream to me, "I am a little girl trying to grow up, and nobody can tell me what to do!" Her behavior and words during these moments are very consistent, so I've learned to identify fairly easily when my wife is cycling through the 'crisis child' episode(s).
In any case, how do I make those kinds of big parent decisions in a way that doesn't offend my 'real' wife's sensibilities, nor piss off the teenage brat?
