Sorry you find yourself here, but at the same time, it's a wonderful resource with lots of caring people.
You may want to try posting over on the "Newcomers" forum, as you'll get a lot more traffic over there. I'll look for you there, but for now I will tell you that your husband's behavior is COMPLETELY "normal" for someone who's having an affair. And no, it's not hopeless -- I'm proof of that.
