Yep, Sunny. Puppy is strict and relentless on progress. When he leaves, Wonka takes over.
*thud* (brushing off dirt) Well, thanks Puppy, for letting my host personality take over!
I reiterate this point once again: Sit still and observe carefully. Don't make any sudden moves.
It may appear that W is looping back and forth with OM. When ending an A, it is full of fits and starts. Very well a possibility for your W and the OM. From my vantage point, W is probably struggling with her inner turmoil over the affair, her feelings for OM and how to deal with you who is her legal H! What a ball of yarn for W to wade through herself. By scrapbooking, W is most likely trying to figure out how her feelings fit into the "image" of a happy, intact family knowing the extent of the A's damage to it and reconnecting with this unit.
Regarding those phantom phone calls to you, I can easily picture this scenario:
W picks the phone....mustering up all reserves of courage...then calls your phone line. Then panic sets in...so she hangs up. A part of me suspects that she is struggling with the notion that she is bracing herself to confess to YOU about her A and the OM.
No?
Puppy, best to share Kit Kat with me otherwise another one of my yet-to-appear personalities will come out and grab it! Methinks got the "sweet tooth".
(CD, sorry bud...traveling all week and a very hectic week for me)
No sweat, Wonka. Spent some time on the road myself. Probably have to get back into it soon enough.
Originally Posted By: Wonka
W picks the phone....mustering up all reserves of courage...then calls your phone line. Then panic sets in...so she hangs up. A part of me suspects that she is struggling with the notion that she is bracing herself to confess to YOU about her A and the OM.
Possible but unlikely. She's never really been a fan of Vmail though, ironically, she usually lets others go to Vmail. Plus, it's been a habit of hers (and mine) that my return call is expected. See 180 Not much to confess about A and OM unless it's over. Don't believe it is.
Tempted to "undetach" a little and see if she is at her mom's now. That would be significant.
Originally Posted By: Wonka
Sit still and observe carefully. Don't make any sudden moves.
It may appear that W is looping back and forth with OM. When ending an A, it is full of fits and starts. Very well a possibility for your W and the OM. From my vantage point, W is probably struggling with her inner turmoil over the affair, her feelings for OM and how to deal with you who is her legal H! What a ball of yarn for W to wade through herself. By scrapbooking, W is most likely trying to figure out how her feelings fit into the "image" of a happy, intact family knowing the extent of the A's damage to it and reconnecting with this unit.
I'll keep the squirrel in mind. Front and center. Thanks. Fits and starts. Understood. "Her" rollercoaster.
I don't want to mind read on the scrap booking but I do beleive that "what" she took is significant. Scrapbooking and wedding dresses.
I wish I had paid more attention to how I packed the scrapbooking stuff so that I knew 'what stuff" she took.
The good thing, CD, is that you are still willing to act on the advice given and trust it! It may not be quite internalized yet, but it's tough when you're in the middle of the fire. The fact that you're willing to act against nature is SO critical! As long as you can do that, the internalization will come.
Yep -- you got it right, Sunny. Right now, CD, you are at the "conscious competent" stage, in your progression from:
1. Unconscious incompetent (Don't know anything, and you're not even AWARE you don't know anything)
2. Conscious incompetent (Still don't know anything, but now you are aware of it, and acknowledge the problem and need for more knowledge)
3. Conscious competent (applying your knowledge, but it still feels awkward to you, as it's not "second nature" yet)
4. Unconscious competent (where you internalize it, and it becomes second nature to you).
One more stage (though this one is likely the LLLOOONNNGGG stage), and I'll be ready to "snatch the pebble from your hand"?
At least I can take solace in knowing that I sometimes get 'moments' of Stage 4. I balance those against the moments (and I've had a several) where I feel like I'm back in #2...and the now rare #1)
