This is so hard, isn't it? Standing up for ourselves and at the same time wanting to be a family again. Good for you sticking up for yourself! Smart call to the IC. I have a new one here, her suggestion was to journal (though I think part of writing here is journaling, but there is so much more to say). I've never tried it as a therapy, but if it helps me process my emotions, I'm all for it.
Stay strong.
Dagny
Me 48, H49, M24, S14, S11 DB #1 4/2002-8/2003 Bomb #2 August 2010 & he moved out Living with OW