Here's a story...of a very sad lady

[Dagny-2]

H had some time with the boys last night, we met at the HS for open house and there was an hour before the next event. I was very pleasant at the HS and when there was talk of dinner I suggested he take the boys and I would meet them back in an hour. H liked that idea and even this morning called and asked me what the boys said about dinner. Not sure what that is about. Apparently S13 told him he didn't miss him, but later gave him hugs and said he missed him.

H asked about Labor Day, I told him what I thought, isn't what he thinks, so he got mad at me. He brought it up again this morning and we got into it again. I'm not sure what to do there. I think he is breaking a promise to his children, he doesn't see it that way, and I know he'll do what he wants, but I don't want to not state what I think. So confusing.

After we ended our nasty call this morning (he called me), I thought about it and called and left a message stating I didn't want our exchanges to always be beligerent, said this is stressful for both of us. He called me back and thanked me for my voicemail. He plans to stop at one of the boy's soccer games this weekend, but that is it, because he has other committments.

I'm trying not to call/text/email. His attitude each time he talks with me is to reinforce there is no more 4 of us. Do I validate that? Though it goes against my every wish for a future, but if I'm truly setting him free (to choke on his freedom), do I stop trying to make him live up to promises with the boys?