here is what bustorama recently posted in his thread, maybe you should understand the mindset behind this:
Originally Posted By: bustorama
... my wife is not cheating on me. If she was, I would not be speaking to her at all, and I would have already filed for divorce. It's a dealbreaker boundary for me, and I told her this early on.
Your wife is on a dating website, it is her intent to be with other men. Let her go, you've been hanging on to someone who doesn't want you.