Totally understood, but I have tried to talk about her health and got a "I don't want to talk about it" or even "none of you business" (in the beginning).
It wasn't until I stopped pestering her and then one day she told me everything. Now I have brought it up when I see her visibly uncomfortable. I have asked when the next dr. appointment is and she has said that it's on hold until her vitamin therapy ends.
I have brought up her drinking when it was out of control. That did not go over well at all.
With all your wisdom and experience have you ever told an alcoholic that their behavior affects people around them? How did they respond?
Some time ago I talked to her mother when W was really in the cutter. Her mom said that there is nothing anyone of us can say or do. She agreed that W is in the path of self destruction but she needs to fall. She was like that when teenager and she came out of her drug using years on her own. More she was approached about it the more she kept using it. She saw someone almost die before she cleaned up her act. That’s why today she despises the drug users.
Sadly one DWI 15 years ago taught her nothing about drinking. That lesson is yet to come.
I know, Coach, how you are capable of changing perspectives with one sentence. So, how do I raise my concern about these blackouts while “letting go” and not sticking my nose in her business?
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Funny how you spoke up about your dog getting a "Double dose" but nothing to your wife. This is a patttern.
BTW, there is nothing funny about that. She is totally unapproachable when she has been drinking. It would have started an argument. I decided to bring up my concern over her action rather than over her condition. I think she got it.
