My wife has been a frequent questioner of what it means to "work on a relationship."
Please tell me you are on that like a dog on a bone?! She's telling you a lot with that statement. Ask any woman if they want more "work" at home. "Relationship" what does that mean in a marriage? Should you really be "working" on something you love?
Stop using that phrase with her. Catnip makes it play. Play makes it fun. Fun is not work.
"All work and no play makes Jack a dull boy."
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.