need help

[cat03]

i'm at a loss for words, i'm angry and scared for my kids. To those who know my story you know that x married a crazy looney (not the ow-at the time) and after 6mths of her taking advantage of him he kicked her out... a full year has passed of their "M" and she's served him papers... she wants him to liquidate all assets, give her half, have her L paid for and spousal support in the future.

What does this have to do with me? he just called me, and told to better find a job soon, because if she gets what she's asking for he's going to get rid of her and them himself...
I makes me SO damn angry and scared for everyone involved, i'm not talking about how it would affect me financially, but the fact that he is willing to let his anger over her destroy his life and my kids lives too... it's too long of a story, but he's already been paying for the huge debts she racked up and for a year was half starving trying to clean up the mess she made.
He refuses to work on more day to pay her, that if the justice system is going to do this he wants nothing else in this life,that there will be nothing left of him for the kids to have a father so he might as well not let her get away with it. He said the papers served to him have all this codes of our state that back her up.

He is BROKE as it is, his townhome wouldnt' sell for a penny more than he paid for it, his car is old and messed up and he just came out of bankrupcy where they forgave thousands of dollars in debt, there NOTHING to fight about! other than perhaps his beat up car and 6mths of 'transitional' spousal support since they were married last August and separated this February, she has her own kids, no kids with him... this is just madness.

I know the laws are different everywhere, but can she possibly get away with this? I just can't believe it has come to this... he is loosing it when all in all the most she can ever get from him would be 6-7k ... it hurts me so much to think that if the worst were to happen my kids are going to be scarred for life because of his anger at her... any thoughts welcomed...