I completely understand Punkin. Mine has been doing this for over 21 months. And now that he doesn't contact me, he will say things in front of our D13 or to her because he knows she will come back and tell me. I told her not to pay attention and that Daddy is sick right now. But since he doesn't respond anyway I figured I will not even bother to text or call him in response to anything he says or does.
I know it's hard not to, but I think that is what they want. They want us to yell or whatever so then we are the bad guys again.
The last shot was he told D13 that he didn't have any money for groceries for us and he changed his status on Facebook from complicated to single. Our D13 was so upset. I don't look anymore because it only hurts and when she told him about it all he could say was, well it's been almost 2yrs. so I am single. They did get into it through texting because I was being blamed for either having her phone or putting her up to it. I had nothing to do with it except after she told me I had to calm her down.
I did text him that day which was in the beginning of the week and told H that I told D13 it was his business and not hers and to respect him and not to do it ever again. Then like a fool I added thanks for helping with groceries and soccer because I'm really struggling and then 2 days later he tells D13 that doesn't have any money to help us and he sends money to her every week for her needs.
I know that was also a dig and to push my buttons but I just left it go. And I do know that feeling and still to this day ask myself "What did I do?" You are not alone.
