Looking for help with WAW

[gr8 day 2B alive]

This place is essentially here to save Ms. However it is taught that DBing is more about saving your M, it's about saving yourself.

I think it's safe to say the we can agree to disagreed about the infidelity aspect.
Take me for example. My W left because she was unhappy with the M. I confirmed there was no A. So we are both in the same boat there.

I haven't been with my W in over a year. I found out two weeks ago that she has slept with someone else. I would be naive to think that since our M was pretty much sexless that she wouldn't want to go out and experience that part of a R she was missing.

Did it hurt?? It stung a little but since I myself am out on the dating scene it didn't bother me much.

Do I feel my W cheated on me???
Absolutely Not!

In May I asked her if D is what she wanted and she said yes.
From that point on I didn't care what she did. She wanted a D. Now I am the one who contacted her so we could move things forward. I have accepted she no longer wants me now or maybe ever.

I value my life and happiness too much now to about whether or not my W will wake up. I owe my new attitude to the folks here who have helped me and myself for deciding to take controll of my life.

Letting go is important, once you truely do this you will be in such a better place.

I don't know if Allen has read your sitch from the beginning, but I think he should so he knows all the facts. IMO

As Pinhead said, we are here for you.