Blah! Same thing! WH wants to reconcile. Doesn`t want to live with us. Or maybe he does but FIRST he says we have to work on `us``. Which of course sounds reasonable, but means.... My choices are still.... (WHAT WOULD YOU DO, WHAT WOULD YOU ADVISE -- anyone...
- sleep with him and run a house and mostly raise the kids myself and work full time in a strange city I don`t want do this, while he determines whether or not `WE` are good or not.
- don`t be involved in an adult relationship with him and still I have to run the house myself, while he creates a new life for himself elswehere, looking for relationships, etc.(what seems to be happening because I don`t want to be in a relationship where I am being `judged` ALL the time, but I don`t want to let go tell him to date other people either.)
- it`s been a year, L says file for final D (he won`t sign separation papers) and start a new life (whatever that is).
