New here but learning slowly. Advice appreciated

[Albuquerque]

Thanks everyone for your comments. Warrior, your post got me thinking. The ring was an important enough symbol for him to indicate he felt the marriage was over. Then it should be an important enough symbol for me to indicate I don't agree. When I stopped wearing it, I was pretty much following suit and did it slightly with some anger and bitterness. But I'm over that (mostly).

PEI, while I understand the point of your post (and after reading went to my room and put my ring back on after 6 months!), I don't think it completely applies. What do I WANT to do? I want to run up to my husband the next time I see him and give him a big hug, tell him I'm so sorry about the pain he's in, convince him he needs to come home etc etc. But I know that's not what is in my best interest (nor his). So I do what I DONT want which is continue to pretend I don't know about OW and avoid all R talk. That's the only reason why I wondered about the wisdom of putting the ring back on. Worried that it might send him scurrying. But it IS what I want and what I feel is right (plus I'm getting weary of people thinking I'm single). So I have put it back on. We'll see what if anything happens. Still interested in other points of view though....