You know, I've often wondered how the last couple years would have been different had I been able to enforce solid boundaries back then. After I discovered her A, what if I had cancelled our joint credit cards, closed our joint checking account, cancelled her cell phone (which was on our FAMILY plan), blocked her Internet access from our home, or even had her clothes packed up and said she had to move out? What if I had threatened full exposure to our families? Immediately filed for D?
I KNOW she would have crumbled and come back begging me to take her back. No doubt about that, but it's the weeks and months that follow I wonder about. There is NO WAY she would have let go of OM so easily. No way. She was completely convinced the universe brought them back together, soulmates from across the world, blah, blah, blah. Assuming I did let her back, and after she felt secure again, I imagine she would have started preparing her exit again, this time being very careful and secretive. She probably would have gotten a separate cell phone to contact him. When she thought she had everything set, she would have then hit me with a giant bomb, perhaps far more destructive than what ended up happening. Who knows?
OM in this case is not married, so I couldn't expose on his end, but he does have his own business. I did consider threatening some sort of Internet exposure to the customers of his business. I am sure he would have went running for the hills, but so much of the advice I was getting said to ignore him and deal with my W.
As time has gone by, I've let go of these "fantasies" about a stronger response by me back then, but sometimes I still wonder. Sometimes I think things happened just the way they were supposed to, to bring us to where we are.
