alb, The ring thing. My W took hers off about 3 months after the bomb. My ring I never really wore throughout the marriage because I gained some wait and it really became uncomfortable. My W never had a problem with me not wearing it and seemed to understand. I did the LBS diet after the bomb and then the ring would not stay on my finger! It kept falling off and I kept wearing it anyway. It then was missing from my fingers and I lost it. It bothered me for that day because I was now starting to treasure it. Thought losing the ring was a sign from GOD! Thought He was telling me my M is over. Here is the deal about the ring and why I am posting this:
I know it may hurt a little, but this is what I see:
When they go through MLC like this, the ring is off of them because they truly think the M is done. Does not make sense to you and me but in this they don't have the capability to realize they are still married. Because in their mind they are not. That is how they justify the OP. They don't want the reminder or guilt. Kind of a coward, don't you think? Until they face their issues, that won't change any time soon.
For you, Wearing the ring could go either way of course. I think I would wear mine to show to others and my Spouse that I believed in us.
Don't feel needy or desperate cause they don't pay that much attention to your feelings through this.
As long as you are still married and standing, I would keep the ring on. But that is me.
Sorry if this is not what you wanted to hear. But this is the way it looked to me.
