Enjoy the CNE, Wii! I haven't been in years. Will never forget walking through the Food Pavilion back in the 70s (with ex) and a guy grabbed my butt and said "Nice Ass". I never lived that down. Ex & the friends we were with said that to me constantly for years - LOL! I just told my daughter that story last week.
Looks like a hot, sunny w/e here at the cottage after a very frigid night tonight. Josh is bringing up kith n kin from Toronto & Montreal. It will be busy but fun!
I told my co-worker on break today the comment wife made at my place, which was "that's the difference between you and me, if I know she wants it I'll go out of my way to make it happen." He said "Why would you take that crap from her? It's a rude and hurtful comment, like she cares more about D13 than you do. You should have said "that's the difference between you and me, you'll lie and cheat behind my back for years whereas I never would" Good one! P.S. Enjoy the cottage SFO and watch those tan lines!
How about a text: "W, DD shared with me that she really wants her family back together. Good to know that you will go all out to make that happen for her! I'm on board, just show me the way."
OK, or not. But JEEZ.
So sincerely, how about: "W, I am sure we both care about DDs' welfare equally, we just demonstrate it in different ways. To me it is important for D13s growth that she have both some independence and some ownership for her life, including when it goes well. Fixing everything for her is tempting, but in my mind it isn't in her best interests. In any case, public evaluation of each other's parenting skills is not good for DDs. Maybe we could have a parenting session with a counselor, or maybe we just need to stay out of each other's parenting choice (within reasonable limits). What is NOT ok is the public criticism of my choices in my own house. If it happens again, you will not be welcome there."
How about a text: "W, DD shared with me that she really wants her family back together. Good to know that you will go all out to make that happen for her! I'm on board, just show me the way."
I like that one, OT! The more I think about it the more tempted I am to say something as it was an inappropriate and offensive comment, unfortunately I don't know how to text!!! I guess I could email. Now, thankfully that's the first one I've heard in ages so it kind of took me aback. She's says it so matter- of- factly I'm left wondering "did I just misunderstand that comment?" She's like a little bull dog and if you approach her face to face it goes bad...been there, done that! We'll see, if I hear another one then I will definately address it. This will not become an acceptible pattern of interacting. To her credit that's the first neg I've heard her say about me in front of the kids in ages.
I woke up this morning and my cold was in full bloom. I went to bed at 9:30 pm last night hoping to sleep it off so I could go to the CNE with the family and friends today, no such luck. I see the doctor at 2:00pm. I phoned wife, as I was supposed to take the girls and meet our friends downtown. I told her I felt terrible but I would take the girls to meet our friends and if I wasn't feeling any better would come home. Wife had a dentist appointment which took her two months to get and she didn't want to cancel it, which is why I was going to take the kids and she'd meet us all later. Her parting response to my statement that I'd take the girls and if not feeling better return home was "whatever". I phoned our friend and told her the sitch and she suggested I just put the girls on the train and she'd meet them downtown. I said the girls had never traveled downtown alone and i felt it best it I bring them. So I did and returned home. I gave the girls a little extra money to spend and I'm sure they'll have a great time. I'm sorry I'm going to miss it, I was looking forward to it. So I guess my day today will be to rest and suck back cough medicine, it hurts when I cough. Btw, here's a funny story, last night D13 baked some cookies which apparently didn't turn out as she had anticipated. When I woke up this morning there was a big note on the cookie container reading "BEWARE: These cookies may cause chipping or breakage of teeth" Yes, D13 is always thinking of her family! Time to lie down.
The girls just got home from the CNE and their mother dropped them off. From her demeanor I knew she was pissed off about something. I asked the girls after she left "what's your mom pissed off about?" D16 said "Oh, she's mad at us because we bought you some things, she thinks we don't appreciate her". Yup, wife is jealous because my girls were considerate enough to buy their ill Dad some licorice and a small heating gel pad. What a wingnut that woman is!
