All I meant, NM, was if I am upfront with a potential man about where I am at with things in my life (ex: separation/divorce/my health and sort of where my head space is)I feel that is very honest. Chances are where I am at won't change overnight or in a month or maybe even 6 months and when they change it will have to be at my pace
Got it! Now I understand
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Certain things, over time of course, I might be able to become more flexible on but I don't want to have to radically change who I am working to become for the sake of intimate R. It could be something small or something major. And if it comes up I will be happy to discuss it but I don't want to be the one always making all the concessions again.
Yes, this makes sense and it is ABSOLUTELY fair to expect/require future beaus to make changes, too!!!!
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004
